PDIN – SUGGESTIONS FOR COUPLE / FAMILIES
Healthy communication is the key element of a happy marriage. If communication is not healthy, the relationship is basically the same. We have listed 10 simple suggestions for you. We hope you will some benefit from these suggestions.
- CARE FOR LOVE:
When talking to your partner and children, try to use the language of love and behavior. Affection language and behavior is the most effective remedy for family problems. Address your partner and children with lots of love words. Affection is one of the basic dynamics that keep marriage and family alive. Make sure to hug and kiss your partner and children every morning when you leave the house and when you come home. Give them a hug, saying phrases like goodbye, see you, welcome.
- TAKE CARE OF YOUR APPEARANCE AT HOME:
Sometimes, partners may not see each other as well dressed for quite a long time. This situation negatively affects the functionality of the marriage. Do not constantly wear your pyjamas at home. Put on your pyjamas only when you are going to sleep. Just as you wear clean and beautiful clothes and comb your hair while going somewhere, pay attention to your appearance at home.
- TAKE CARE TO TALK:
Make sure to have breakfast and dinner together with your partner. Talk and listen about how the day was at dinner. Evenings, sit close to each other in your living room as couples, have a chat by drinking something like coffee or tea.
- BE AWERE THAT DIGITAL ADDICTION IS DAMAGING YOUR MARRIAGE:
Stay away from being a couple who spends time at home on TV, phones, computers, and tablets and stay at home without talking like two strangers. Especially when you are with your partner, leave your mobile phones outside your living room and do not pick them up unless it is absolutely necessary. Know that smartphones rob your time and drive family members apart.
- CARE FOR SEX:
Make sure to sleep with your spouse without any excuse. Do not sleep in separate beds. Consider that sexuality is a need and has a healing effect. If you are married, are in good physical health, and are in the adult age group, have sex with your partner at least once every four days. It may happen once a week or more in the age group of fifty and over.
- TAKE CARE OF FAMILY ACTIVITIES:
Take a walk with your partner for an hour at least two days a week. Watch movies at home minimum one day a week, so that means make a movie day at home. Having a family event on weekends (Such as: Go hiking, on a picnic, to the movies and theatre, eat out) Make sure you go on vacation at least once a year.
- TAKE CARE OF HOME SHOPPING:
Housemakers, could do it on their own throughout the week, spreading the necessary shopping over a month. Thus, the partners who do not work will go out and meet the need for socialization. If both partner work shopping should be then together.
- CARE FOR SURPRISES:
Buy small gifts from time to time on your payday. If you have kids, buy gifts for your kids also. Make event surprises such as holidays, movies / theatre. Surprises always make family members happy.
- CARE FOR HEALTHY COMMUNICATION:
In your relationships with your partner’s family, do not consider your partner as a communicative link. Communicate with your partner’s family directly, not through your partner.
- TAKE CARE OF THE INDEPENDENCE OF YOUR MARRIAGE:
Marriage is a glass bell. It is special and it has limits. The contents of this bowl are women, husbands and children. Grandparents are out of the bowl. When they enter the bowl, there is a crisis in marriage. The indicator of a healthy marriage is a jar with the lid off. Closing the cover is not rejecting your grandparents. Closing the lit means; To make decisions about your marital life freely, to solve marital problems together with your partner, to respect marriage, to draw the boundaries of your marriage and to ask your parents to respect these issues.
PSYCHOLOGICAL DEVELOPMENT INSTITUTE